Someone posted a message on Facebook that said something
like, “Thank goodness I don’t have a cartoon balloon over my head!” I chuckled
about this at first and then I started percolatin’ on it. What would happen if
everyone could read our thoughts? I wonder if it would be a good thing. These questions came to me:
Would we become more rational because we would have to
temper our negative thinking? Would we judge others less? Would it be more
beneficial as we would know exactly where we stand or would that be more
hurtful? What would happen to the lying? Would that prevent us from lying?
Would we be kinder to each other or would it increase the battles with each
other?
Then I started thinking about my own thoughts; the negative
ones especially. It would be so embarrassing if everyone could read my
thoughts. Then they would see all of those things that I have become so good at
hiding. You know, all of those characteristics that we dislike about ourselves
that we desperately try to keep under control. And to think of what others
would think if they were able to read what I sometimes say to myself - like
when I look in the mirror. Those irrational thoughts have been with me a long
time and I am still challenging them. Those balloons would also show my
weaknesses, my insecurities, my struggle with forgiveness, and my judgmentalism.
Yep, all of those negative human traits. Hey, don’t judge me! I know you have
some of those too! Yes, that would be pretty bad if others could read my
thoughts!
My conclusion? It would create more difficulty if everyone
could read each other’s thoughts. I truly believe it is far easier to change my own thinking for the better! That is what
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is all about – change your stinkin’ thinkin’ and
help yourself feel better emotionally. It works! I can change my thinking and
become less anxious, less depressed or discouraged, less angry, and less
whatever negative feeling I can come up with. Cartoon balloons? PERISH THAT
THOUGHT!
Bonnie Lillis, LPC
Clinical Director