We live in a world where we can receive information the very instant something happens. We live in a country where many of us can go out and buy things when we want (within reason, of course!). Because of this, we live in society that thrives on instant gratification and the expectation that things will or should happen quickly.
This happens frequently in the therapeutic setting. Parents come in with their child and have the expectation that the clinician, as the professional, will fix that child and do it quickly! Patients come in and expect to learn this form of therapy quickly and that it will make them better without effort. The problem is that this type of therapy does not work that way. This type of therapy actually teaches the skills that are needed for the patient to help themselves. What does this mean? It means that the child and parents need to work together with the clinician to reinforce the taught skills as well as learn an effective way to get the behaviors they want from their child. It also means that the patient has to use the 4 P’s for the most effective treatment possible. What are the 4 P’s? This is pretty much what we need to be successful not only in treatment, but in life.
Patience – Learning how to recognize well learned, ingrained irrational thoughts is not easy. It is difficult to learn how to change those irrational thoughts into rational, calm thoughts. Calming self-talk and being patient with yourself will go a long way.
Practice – Yes, it takes practice. Just like it took a great deal of practice to learn how to walk, ride a bike, write a paper, and drive a car, it takes a great deal of practice to be able to challenge your well learned irrational thoughts and change them. The more you practice, the better you will get at this. The better you get at this, the better you will feel!
Perseverance – Keeping with the “P” theme, you will be required to pledge yourself to the techniques that you will learn. You will need to be purposeful! Motivation, commitment,
stick-to-itiveness, and refusing to give up is what is important! All good things are worth the work. Changing your irrational thinking and having the result of feeling better is worth the effort!
Progress – The above 3 P’s will result in a great deal of progress toward feeling better. Look at the testimonials on our webpage: www.necbt.com, and you will see the progress that previous patients report.
Interpersonal Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is highly effective. If you have patience, practice and perseverance, you will make great progress toward a healthier and happier you!
Bonnie Lillis, LPC
Bonnie Lillis is a Psychotherapist with
New England Center
for CBT (NECBT), located in . NECBT specializes in the highly effective
Interpersonal Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (I-CBT) modality invented by Dr.
Thomas Cordier. I-CBT is a hybrid of Emotional Intelligence and CBT rudiments.
I-CBT empowers patients to overcome and subdue their mental health issues by
changing their thoughts. You can learn more about I-CBT at necbt.com. Coming
soon – I-CBT.org. Glastonbury,